Crossing the line

Well, someone crossed the line today.

He called my lawyer from the hospital to arrange for transport of his car. I had already told her I didnt want him to have it since we are both on the title and if he kills someone I'll be implicated. She agreed we could keep him from it but I really thought he just wanted the cash. And I'm pretty sure he doesnt have insurance OR a license to drive anymore having lost both over summer.

So he called her twice this morning - talking so quickly she could hardly understand him. He was given the message that he couldnt have it or she ignored him - I'm not sure which.

Then he called a third time - they let it go to her voicemail - where he left a swear-word ridden message with two threats to hurt her. Now she is having all his calls routed to her voicemail - the better to collect them is my guess. I dont know what she plans to do.

I called and found out he is still in the hospital. Hope he is there thru Halloween. I guess this will unfold over time.

I wouldnt want to cross her and I'm pretty tough!

BTW!

to go!

Incomplete Pass

Letter to a Friend


Dear Amicus -
Guess who my lawyer heard from on Friday? Yes, yes! The FSO.


He's back in psycho land.

He called her to tell her (still manic I suppose since she said he was talking a mile a minute) that he wanted to stop all the "drama". He instructed her to go to court, unfreeze his 401K and stock options, sell them and split the proceeds 50/50. And she was to finish up the divorce. The number he gave her was a city hospital in his new home state. I called and when I asked if he were a patient there, she immediately transferred me to the psyche ward.

I have a call in to my states attorney rep to see if she can find out whats going on. I doubt our county will go to the hospital to pick him up. If not, it was a very interesting way to gain freedom since I'm sure he signed himself in which means he only has to stay for five days.

Overall its a good thing. In this mental state, he wont stay free for long. And we do want him to end up in jail for the divorce. Plus he has more opportunities to end himself this way.

Tho I must admit to being worried about Halloween. I will have to answer the door with the girls - mainly the youngest - and I've already told them that if he is out they will have to choose a different trick-or-treating route.

Meanwhile, I wait for my court-ordered 90,000 to arrive. There is a court date entering the order which will go to his 401K people on Nov 6. I dont think it would be much longer after that.


to go!
Keep the wind in your sails!
Eudoxia

Thanks!

Mother and I were laughing last nite on how convenient that he got out two days AFTER the hearing where we rec'd $90,000!

SO I MUST SAY...
All of our thanks to those spirits watching out for and over us.


They have done a wonderful job in protecting us and providing for us. Not just with this last court hearing but in the entire process.


And special thanks to to Mother who has been a stalwart helper and financial supporter before and during this whole process.

Only

to go!

Making it more ...

palatable.


WAHHH!

Well, I can cry like a baby and lay on the ground until the snow covers me.

or


I can remember who I am.

He is nuts - that is a fact. And that means logic doesnt work with him.
But I have more than logic. I have courage and strength and love for my kids. And those are far stronger than someone who is grandiose with nothing to back it.

The mitigating factors (I refuse to put "positive") are:
1. He lives in a ghetto in Indiana and is more likely to be killed there then in prison. (* Mother , I know you dont like this line of thinking but it IS a mitigating factor.)
2. If he is on treatment - highly unlikely, he is not likely to stay on it. Which means he will just return to doing the illegal things he does. Which means a return to jail. And we DO want him in jail for the divorce trial.
3. Tho his license is suspended, he is going to get behind the wheel of a car again for sure and soon. And he is more likely to be killed (hopefully NOT bringing someone else with him) there than in prison.

I'm so glad I decided not to have the Halloween party. RIght now I'd be worried he'd show up and gun us all down.


THE BIGGEST FACTOR OF ALL IS THAT EVERYTHING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO US SO FAR HAS TURNED OUT TO BE THE BEST THING FOR US. THE SPIRITS WHO WATCH OVER US HAVE PROTECTED US VERY THOROUGHLY AND THERE IS NO REASON TO THINK THIS TIME WILL BE ANY DIFFERENT.

I choose
!


UPDATE! I rec'd a phone call from my states attorney rep. She said he has not been released but, instead, is in the county awaiting transport to our home county for outstanding warrants. Also, she is going to find out why he was released on his own recognizance - is this judge nuts too? - and she noted they are going to try and get a high bail set.

So MUCH has happened ...

to go!

Okay, here goes.

First, I noticed that soon after the FSO must have rec'd the letter from my attorney telling him about the court hearing to take money from his 401K he was moved from the hospital wing to the wing where inmates are sent who do not obey the prison rules.

Second, we went to court Tuesday and my lawyer won us $90,000 to be taken from his 401K for child support owed plus future child support until January plus money he owed me. It takes approximately six weeks to get it so I'll have to borrow from Mom again. But at least I can pay her back right away in a lump sum.


What would I do without Mother?

Third, I found out this morning - after waking up feeling very uneasy and somewhat sad but I did not know why - that he was released from jail on his own recognizance yesterday afternoon. I dont know how to tell my girls. I'm going to call the therapist as soon as they leave to ask her for tips on how to do so. I have to call my son as well but he has an exam today so I'm going to wait until this afternoon. I told the girls' teachers and the principal so she could be aware of the possibility that he'd show up.

I'm going to call my states attorney rep to find out whats going on. I know he has a court date on Tuesday in our county.

Minor work today

Going today to the lawyer's to sign the petition which will go to him and to court asking for his child support out of his retirement funds. He will then have the lawyer's address so I imagine he'll communicate with her directly. Don't know how she handles that. But I do know he is in jail until the 18th at least which is two days after this. Plus, since he has asked for and received "indigent" standing, I think it will be very difficult for him to get a lawyer to show up. Especially when you add that the state had him checked for his competency. I dont know what happens if he comes up with a lawyer tho. I saw his bank acct - the one they are closing. The letter had slipped and I could see it through the little cellophane window. He has a grand total of $16.48 in it. Try hiring a lawyer on that one!

Also, today, I'm going to call Dr H and see about getting our appts in.

Countdown continues ...