And, with the trial date looming, we have finally heard from his lawyer. There was great moaning and gnashing of teeth because he doesn't want to pay any college for his son.
(*Remember, his son COULD have stopped this divorce.*)
Not even his share. And he wanted 15,000 for our non-existent very valuable household goods. Also he thinks his car is not worth as much as mine no matter what the Blue Book value is. He also wanted to change the custody doc's requirement that he be mentally healthy and in treatment for a year before asking to see the two younger to six months. We kaboshed all of it and the two lawyers have been negotiating. They immediately capitulated on the six months. And he agreed to pay 15000 in cash towards our oldest's college (after all, it is the law in our state) and forgo a $12000 tax loss on the house going to me (post tax asset versus 401K pre tax asset) to put towards his share. He is still $12,000 short of his share tho and claimed he had no more money to spare. He asked for his books (great luck on that but more on that later) and a broken stereo we bought 13 yrs ago.
In the meantime, his lawyer reassured us that he is "doing VERY well" and has since moved from the hospital to his own apartment.
In fact, he is doing SO well that his lawyer cant stop complaining to mine about how difficult a client he is to deal with.
Which tells me he will be on his merry manic way within a few months since there is no one to give him his meds, make him go to therapy, and do all the work he hates to do like wash his clothes, shop for food, clean his house. Hopefully, tho it sounds nasty, another suicide attempt is in the offing and will prove more effective than the last one.
The repo man came and took his car finally for non payment. Its SO nice having it gone from my driveway.
Anyway, while packing his books as requested, I found the very bonds I've been asking him about for the past 15 months. And this was AFTER he agreed to pay a portion of his share for my oldest's college.
These two things have absolutely INFURIATED him - this calm and sane man - according to his lawyer. That, #1, I found the bonds AFTER he agreed to pay part of his share of the college. He claimed I had them all along and was hiding them even tho I have asked him repeatedly to produce them since I had no idea where they were from and how to get them replaced. Since it was AFTER that means he has acknowledged that he owes it and the bonds - which arent his asset anyway - are outside of his agreement. #2, he somehow thinks the repo man actually cares about where you live and stores your car in convenient locations to the defaulter. Because it was stored out of state - this is where the repo company is based - he had to pay almost $900 extra to get it back.
(Pardon me while I wipe a tear from my eye.)
And I was accused of telling the repo company that he lives in this state that is not ours. Now, first of all, he should have just paid his debt and he would not have had to deal with it at all.
Repo Man: I care
And as I pointed out the repo man does not base storage on where the defaulter lives. Second, when the bank first called me about the loan, he had told my lawyer to send all of his papers to some woman in that state because he was living there. So he really did live there as far as they were concerned. And third I had told the bank when they called to arrange repossession who his lawyer was and where he was based and the fact that FSO was in the hospital for a suicide attempt run amok.
Our trial dates begin a week from Monday. My lawyer had told me she would contact me if she heard anything from them but I have not heard anything from her since early last week. We have had to pay the doc a very large fee for his services to prepare for trial since we cant risk not having him.
Time is ticking away.
