**yawn**

So now we are one month from our trial date. Our proposal - so well put together - was totally ignored. My lawyer called his a few times only to be told that he has it but has not had the time yet to cobble together a response. Last week she sent a notice to produce his financial documents as well as the mileage plus information. She also sent a notice to produce the Former Significant Other at the trial. I am not sure what that means so sent email asking her to clarify. I have two dates with her at the end of July to prepare for trial.

I dont hold out hope for any resolution. I dont know what happens if he decides not to come. Or if his lawyer tries and gets another delay. The judge is on his side - I think he feels empathy for him - and is bending ass-over-backwards to help him.

I think it would be fair for him to cough up half of our eldest's college expenses and to pay for last trial's prep. He owes me interest on the child support - around 10,000. I want him to have to cash in his 401K and pay me in cash - otherwise its income to me. No more of this QDRO for me. And he will have to transfer some of his 401K to me to make the split 50/50.

I did attend a court hearing last week to prevent my losing my right to register my car because he got in an accident with one of our cars with me on the title with him. I heard from the officer there because of the Order of Protection there is a warrant out for his arrest in a nearby county and they had intended to take him in if he showed up for the hearing. But he has not showed up for anything - criminal court hearings, competency hearings, this hearing. I'll find out if they decide I'm not responsible for the car within 90 days.

I'm not holding out any hope that the divorce would be done this August. I am not so naive anymore. I think he'll delay again - I am already at $28,000 in legal fees - out of spite and this will just keep going on. So I'm not letting myself get excited about this maybe being done. Its the Everready bunny of divorces.

And he's an asshole.