OMG!

Where to start?

First, only

to go!

That means over the weekend we'll move into the 60's. I remember when it was in the 100's. Time moves on whether you want it to or not!

Lots of things going on.

Most importantly, the order for the BUCKS was filed in court on Tuesday and sent that day to his 401K holder. I dont know how long it takes after that but I believe she told me around six weeks from when we first went in on it. Which would make it maybe a week or two to go.


As it is, I'm just hanging in there thanks to Mother!

Two more violations of the Order and a bizarre turn of events.

One was three letters sent to my son's girlfriend's parents. Now, we only know them from being my son's girlfriend and had met them at her graduation. Very nice people. I guess you would say they are more meditative on how they handle things.


tho "meditative" was not the word Mother used. lol

They rec'd these letters way back Oct 9, didnt know what to do with them, and didnt want to upset my son. So they sat on them. I found out Saturday while shopping with my daughters in our "Martha Stewarting" of our house. (For that, see my other blog!) After going back and forth with my son as to how to best handle them, I went there and picked up the letters. They are the same old sick things. Including a threat on theirs that he is going to have his "REVENGE" (upper case letters are his.) He sounds a bit obsessive about their daughter - how wonderful she is - in his letter to her and his letter to them. And he has a letter to my son giving him a list of things to do for him, and asking him to lend him all his money at 50% interest. My son has shown no interest in seeing the letter so I'm just going to file it.

I filed a complaint with the police (3rd party communication) when I heard from the cop (one that I think felt too much empathy for the FSO) that he had been in the station last week turning himself in (with a family member) for an outstanding warrant. The cop couldnt remember anything about what I asked him. "Was it late in the week?" "I dont remember" "Did he come with a man or woman?" "I dont remember." He did remember he was cordial but obviously goofy. So FSO didnt show up in Vinelink. And the States Attorney thought he was still waiting in the hospital for him. And they still dont know how he came to be out.

On Monday nite, I got a phone call from his girlfriend's parents (who will have to get a "pen" name for this blog if they continue to show up in it!) saying he had left them a creepy phone message. They taped it for me and I now have it. After I drop the kids off, I'm headed to the police to file a report of a threat. I know they wont make it a complaint - the States Attorney wants the report number and said she'll take it from there. But, really, whats the point when he is allowed to do as he pleases? In the tape he says:

"I'm going to make Eudoxia and our son look really bad. They done me bad and you do the man of the Lord bad you know what happens folks. I dont have to tell you two that."

But there is a bunch of crazy stuff in there. He's an "adopted" Christian. Jesus is his savior. Everyone could look at his life and see how great things happen when you accept Jesus in your heart. That God has a plan for him or he would have had him die already. That God had him go through all these troubles just to let him see somethign or other - never really did understand that one. Blah de blah blah.


He's running for office again! Only this time he is going for Hastert's spot instead of Obama's. LOL. Guess he had to take a step down.

He has a girlfriend Jessica. Thats the name of the girl in the crazy emails he sent too but not the name of the woman he told us to send his papers to. Dont know if its a figment of his imagination or what. She is very pure - wont even hold his hand until he is divorced. Hmmmm. Said all he needs in life is a cup of tea and Jessica.

He closes with the threat and thats thats the end of that story.

Except....

I was thinking how his connection with these people - tho imagined - is something that feeds his mental needs. That he feels important. He can vent on us. And, the scary thing, is he is obviously becoming more obsessed about their daughter. I had a feeling they are pretty much in the dark about how sick he is beyond what they heard. So I put together a packet for them - his arrest records in his new home state, his criminal court cases here, the letter I wrote for the States Attorney in his commitment hearing, his commitment order, the crazy emails and two timelines (police, threats, accidents, Order breaks and Psychiatric treatment.) I wrote up a note saying that since we immersed in the problem we dont see how much others are in the dark. And that the packet should give them a good view of whats going on with him. I also told them I did strongly believe they needed to tell him directly to stop all contact with them. They are not his friends. He does not play any role in our family. He is a non-entity. I stopped by to talk to them briefly and they did say they were planning on contacting him to tell him to stop all contact. My son's girlfriend's mom felt very worried about his frequent references to their daughter and her dad finally concurred after listening to the message he left once again. So that is VERY good news.

Then I saw the doctor for a second time. He wanted to know what I was afraid of when allowing visitation and what did I want for him to be able to visit. I am afraid of him being cunning enough to take the kids from a supervised meeting and disappear into his new home state. I am afraid for the physical safety of my kids when with him - both in a car, or in person because of his temper issues. I'm afraid they will be mentally bruised by exposure to him. My requirements were that he meet all aspects of the treatment of his illnesses for a minimum of six months as verified by the providers themselves and that he be stable. I told him that since they have no relationship with their dad that any visits would be forced and would only be for him. He said at the end that there was no court going to make the kids even have supervised visits with him. I signed off permission for the therapist to talk to him.

And I thought thats about it but yesterday I was checking their old emails - the ones he knows - and I found an American Girl Halloween card sent from my one daughter's old account to my other's old account. They never log on to these and in fact, have new ones that are not name related. I found it highly unlikely it came from my oldest girl. So I kind of felt her out yesterday to see if they sent e-cards to each other on Halloween. I sent to my SIL and one of my friends so it wouldnt be unusual. She said she had forgotten to send her one. My theory is he sent it using her old account as the sender. They never saw it and they dont know about it so no big deal. I shut off the two accounts. I have two accounts of my own that I've been using regularly and I'm going to shut down the one he knows. In fact, I tried to but Yahoo couldnt. And its still up this morning. Will try again after this blogging.

And, now, thats about it. I have lots of things coming due now so am very busy. I'm glad there is not much to do re: this stuff.