Advice

I had lunch yesterday with my friend to discuss her ideas as to my predicament.

One piece of advice was the same as Mother's: stay together as long as you can take it or until you can graduate.

Her suggested strategy was I view him as a housemate. We dont sleep together or have any life together outside of forced visits to his family when it comes up - which fortunately isnt often. So instead of viewing it as "hanging in there", she said view it as a necessary arrangement I've made to keep my house and finances together for the sake of the kids. It actually seems the same - except he doesnt have any responsiblities at home like a housemate probably would.


So I'm going to combine that with Mother's advice that I just act however I feel.

If I want to be friendly, I am. If I dont care, I dont care. And, yesterday, I avoided a trap - he was heavily engaged in conversation with someone about ratings. I was going to ask him afterwards what it meant to him but decided not to. I cant control it and I just have to sit back and go wherever it takes me. No use making myself aggravated by wasting an entire afternoon listening to him for two hours whine and moan and observe how unfair ratings are.


I'm learning!