Illogical ILS

My Brother-In-Law

So, I ask my BIL to be the SO's guardian. He needs someone to shut down his credit cards, fire his lawyer, and look out for his financial well-being.

Response - typical for the inlaws - he has to talk to over with his sister after he sees the SO on Saturday and then decide.

I tell him he has to do it today (Friday) or I'll do it. He says SO has fired his lawyer, is taking his meds and the credit cards are out of his reach. Nevertheless, I feel he needs a guardian. Then BIL tells me the social worker said we cant get guardianship for him - its only for physical problems. (Sound illogical to you too?)
I can tell by his voice he is getting pissed by my insistence and I finish up and ring off.

Then I talk to my mom and decide all I really need at this point is for the credit cards to be shut. Otherwise, for me to be guardian could potentially be a big problem - conflict of interest to begin with.

I SMS my BIL and tell him that he needs to safeguard his brother and if he doesnt see doing a guardianship at this point in time as appropriate then he has to do whatever he has to do. And I ask him to let me know what he decides.


The Social Worker

I called the social worker today to check up on him. See what's going on. She tells me that he is not cooperating much but he is taking the meds he needs, that he is still all about himself ("everything begins and ends with him and him alone"), and he is getting a little depressed. She said we can get guardianship but its difficult - she mentions a short term one of 60 days as a possibility. Then she tells me the lawyer is back and he is trying to move SO to another facility at SO's request. This requires lots of time on the lawyer's part (what a surprise!) and includes an additional court trip.

I hang up and start driving home only to get an SMS from the BIL telling me how he feels everything is now under control - the credit cards away, the lawyers fired, and the treatment begun.

I respond very briefly saying the social worker has just told me the lawyer is back and working to move him to a new facility. And, he should let me know what he decides.


My BIL after my SMS