Then the MIL and FIL move in with us due to some legal circumstances.
My MIL arrives
At first I think - our marriage is good. We can handle this. His sister promises to split the time with them.
Yeah, right!
It is a disaster in our marriage of epic proportion.
Mummy takes over immediately. House is rearranged. My husband and my conflicts are interfered with. My drawers and my room are regularly visited and checked through - for who knows what but checked through nevertheless. She is rude to me. She is mean to me.
I work on the assumption that if this person understands what we expect, she'll do it. But she does understand. She just doesnt care. My husband and I work together on the problem. But he HATES confict. He will confront her but will never escalate. She just continues to do whatever she wants.
Our relationship morphs into a prickly, unpleasant, constant hum of aggravation, and fights.
Us
Slowly, he stops showing any affection for me. Xmas and holidays are unmitigated disasters as he stops putting any efforts into things that are for me. He becomes self-absorbed and his work engrosses him. I can be in the middle of telling him something and he'll get up and leave the room. Every decision is questioned repeatedly. The birth of our oldest child holds little of happy shared times with him and he has very little interaction with him. He doesnt want to do anything together. All conversations begin and end with him. He refuses to do any of his responsbilities - be they doing work at home, repairs at home, work on our relationship, interact with my family, interact with his children.
And, it becomes obvious to everyone but me that he has stopped loving me.
