Island in the Stream

My children and I have not had more than a two sentence conversation with the S.O. for over a week now. His work has totally absorbed him. He says its going to be this way at least until the end of the year. Anytime I say anything to him - be it "Here's your dinner." or "Did you see Liebermann is in trouble?" - he says "I cant deal with it now." Though he is more than willing to take out time to tell me the latest on what is going on in the project or to tell me something he wants done.He comes home at 8 pm, and is out by 6.


He is on the phone til 1 a.m.

We had planned a big (read: expensive) vacation for October. I am hoping he'll have to back out. Our bickering ruins a lot of vacations and he brings nothing positive to it since he is so self involved. Our last vacation, though, was better. If he is too busy, he maybe wont be able to go.


The kids dont care if he makes it.

I dont know whether this is good or bad. I like having his attention elsewhere. Living day to day as if we were a couple had been too fake and that is hard for me. But having to tip-toe around him every minute that he is at home is very difficult.

I cleaned out the spare bedroom at home and set up a table and chair for him in there. I'm hoping he'll use it. And then, since I sleep across the hall from that room, I plan to move back into my bedroom saying he's too loud and have him move into his mom's room. Otherwise, I'll have to do it outright which will mean loads of useless discussion.