Venting felt good!
She said overall it sounds about as bad as it can get between us. She also said he has tons of personal problems to work - tell me about it! She wanted to know if I thought it could be worked, what I wanted, and what my plans were.
We agreed the basic problem is that despite his saying he cares about me, he never shows any signs of it and hasnt for almost 20 years. I feel foolish to have hung around so long but I was always working the wrong problem.
My basic plan is to hold out for two more years if I can.
The only way this can work, since it is over for me, is if he uses the two years to change and win me back. I'm not going to work it though I will not block him either. He'll have to start at ground zero since I dont even want to hold his hand. We need to work on getting along.
She mentioned its a shame to have to stay together for financial reasons. Which it is. But its better than trying to scrape together 900 bucks for Cobra, etc. And she agreed that he is the type to quit his job. I asked her not to share the two years limit with him.
